Thoughts for leadership. Thoughts for life.
You are a great practitioner! You know the techniques and you are great at seeing more that you can add and you know the timing when to add them in. You were great at matching rapport with me specially in voice - pace and tone. I felt very safe in your space.
the best suggestion I have is to sign up for the next NLP Practitioner Certification Training, right now.
NLP Practitioner training, as presented by Board Certified Trainer, Paul Jensen, and Master Coach, Natalie Jensen, was presented and modeled in such a way that the rapport with our team was immediate. The respect displayed between Paul, Natalie, and Destiny DeHaven was professional, congruent with Excellence Coaching Associates™ mission of “Changing Those Who Will Change The World!”
The training process involves respecting each person’s model of the world uncritically and without judgment. The unconscious mind takes in everything and is always listening. I can see and believe in everyone’s magnificence and when I do – they will too.
I got rid of some limiting beliefs. I can’t tell you what they were because they’re GONE!! Through Time Line Therapy®, I easily and effortlessly replaced the negative emotions of anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt with new learnings.
I can easily identify whether I’m at cause or effect or secondary gain (causing me to stay in a problem because it gets me lots of sympathy and attention).
I could go on and on but the best suggestion I have is to sign up for the next NLP Practitioner Certification Training, right now. I can honestly say that Paul and Natalie achieved the definition of NLP “the process of modeling excellent behavior so that we can replicate it and teach it to others”.
We all have two natures. One is the happy, excited, fulfilled, successful, “I feel good about me” nature that enables me to step out and do things I have never done before. The other is the fearful, withdrawn, “I’m not good enough” nature that makes me doubt myself and causes me to stay stuck in mediocrity and dissatisfaction.
These two natures are always in competition with each other and, unfortunately, the second nature seems to be the one where we go more easily, probably because it’s the one we know better and with which we are more comfortable.
Further, the second nature speaks to us in soft, sweet tones, such as “That’s very hard so it’s okay if you stop now” or “You don’t have to do that today; tomorrow’s good enough” or “Somebody else did that to you” or “You’re not good enough to have that.” These soft words cause us to lose our resolve and, of greater concern, cause us to stop pursuing our goals and dreams!
The biggest problem is that when we give in to this nature, it, like a terrorist, is never satisfied. The Israelis, for example, know never to negotiate with a terrorist because no matter what concession one makes, the terrorist always wants more.
If, for example, you listen today to the “tomorrow’s good enough” rationalization, well, come tomorrow the same argument is going to apply and you will be putting stuff off until the next day. Before you know it,the week is gone and you have achieved nothing. And then you get to feel crappy and beat yourself up, which, of course, suits the terrorist just fine.
Don’t listen to your inner terrorist! Your inner terrorist does not have your best interest at heart; he (or she) only has his interest at heart. When you make the changes in you that you say you want, the terrorist loses power and he doesn’t want that; he will not give up easily. The way to beat him is not to play his game. Never negotiate with your inner terrorist!
When your inner terrorist shows up, and he will, know that it’s a sign that you are on the brink of something worthwhile. Use that awareness as a trigger to strengthen your resolve, blow through the terrorist’s agenda, and create the success you deserve!
Never negotiate with your inner terrorist!