Thoughts for leadership. Thoughts for life.
One of the techniques our students learn in NLP Practitioner Certification Training is a nifty little neurological tool called a "resource anchor". A resource anchor allows a person to shift his or her state from an unhappy, unresourceful state to a positive, uplifting state in an instant.
The value of this technique was amply demonstrated when one of recent graduates was involved in a very stressful incident (not of her making) at her workplace. She later told us, "I'm so glad I had this (resource anchor); it really works!" Instead of leaking copious tears and blowing snot bubbles, she was able to use her resource anchor to help her maintain poise and actually create a positive outcome from a very negative situation. You can learn how to do this, too. And you can teach it to your kids (as she did)!
Join us for the next NLP Practitioner Certification Training to learn more about resource anchors!
Every time we start a new training, we are excited, looking out at the students assembled, bright-eyed, committed and expectant about the changes they will be able to make in their own lives (and therefore in the world) with the knowledge and techniques we are about to teach them. We’re excited for them, for ourselves, and for the world.
At the same time we reflect with some sadness on the people who aren’t there, those people who should be there, who said they were going to be there, and for some … reason … aren’t. We know some of them by name, because we’ve talked with them; we’ve texted with them, and so on. But there are others whose names we don’t even know because they didn't get that far. They’re out there, too.
And if we generalize this situation out to the great game of Life, we all know people like this: people who say they want something but when it comes time to create results, well, for some … reason … they fall short, they fall away. When it’s time to get out of the comfort zone, well, for some good … reason … that’s too hard.
Which are you? Are you someone who will reach out, grab your future with both hands and bend it to your will? Or are you someone who will decide, for some good reason, to stay where you are, comfortable yet unsatisfied?
We all have two natures. One is the happy, excited, fulfilled, successful, “I feel good about me” nature that enables me to step out and do things I have never done before. The other is the fearful, withdrawn, “I’m not good enough” nature that makes me doubt myself and causes me to stay stuck in mediocrity and dissatisfaction.
These two natures are always in competition with each other and, unfortunately, the second nature seems to be the one where we go more easily, probably because it’s the one we know better and with which we are more comfortable.
Further, the second nature speaks to us in soft, sweet tones, such as “That’s very hard so it’s okay if you stop now” or “You don’t have to do that today; tomorrow’s good enough” or “Somebody else did that to you” or “You’re not good enough to have that.” These soft words cause us to lose our resolve and, of greater concern, cause us to stop pursuing our goals and dreams!
The biggest problem is that when we give in to this nature, it, like a terrorist, is never satisfied. The Israelis, for example, know never to negotiate with a terrorist because no matter what concession one makes, the terrorist always wants more.
If, for example, you listen today to the “tomorrow’s good enough” rationalization, well, come tomorrow the same argument is going to apply and you will be putting stuff off until the next day. Before you know it,the week is gone and you have achieved nothing. And then you get to feel crappy and beat yourself up, which, of course, suits the terrorist just fine.
Don’t listen to your inner terrorist! Your inner terrorist does not have your best interest at heart; he (or she) only has his interest at heart. When you make the changes in you that you say you want, the terrorist loses power and he doesn’t want that; he will not give up easily. The way to beat him is not to play his game. Never negotiate with your inner terrorist!
When your inner terrorist shows up, and he will, know that it’s a sign that you are on the brink of something worthwhile. Use that awareness as a trigger to strengthen your resolve, blow through the terrorist’s agenda, and create the success you deserve!
Never negotiate with your inner terrorist!
These are two words that often are thought to be interchangeable. I submit they are not.
Deciding is the process of selecting between two or more alternatives, based on information. The problem is that once new information becomes available, the decision will likely be changed. And when even more information becomes available, the decision will likely be changed yet again. And again.
Choosing, on the other hand, is focused on the outcome one wants to create and thus is not dependent on information. The act of choosing creates intention and from intention flow results.
So the next time, dear reader, you find yourself on the cusp of a decision, take a step back and determine if you are deciding or choosing. Which do you want? Which one will create results for you?
“The opposite of a correct statement is a false statement. The opposite of a profound truth may well be another profound truth.”~Neils Bohr
And when we encounter such opposing and probably irreconcilably polarized positions, what then? Well, know this: frequently God can be found in those gaps between places of greatest tension. So when you find yourself in one of those philosophical LaGrange Points, celebrate! You may well have the opportunity to see the face of God!